Odd Questions I Get

I never mind talking about my surrogacy journey, ever. I love sharing my experience with people and in general most have many questions...sometimes some very odd ones. Here are a few of the ones I can remember most.

"Do you know them?" - When I've had people ask me this they didn't mean was I good friends with them. They meant am I completely doing this blindly for strangers I know nothing about.  Seriously. Of course, I have had people ask if it's for someone I'm friends with already, but on more than one occasion I've been asked if I know WHO THE PARENTS ARE.  This just baffles me. I mean, I know people give babies up for adoption without knowing who their baby is going to, but this situation is a little different...actually more than a little.  We weren't just randomly put together to create a person. Sorry if I'm sounding a little harsh, but I'm always taken aback when I'm asked this.

And then there are the people who do seem a little surprised at how little time I have actually known Sarah and Brian. Which I can totally understand. We met in October and by January I was carrying their baby.  It really is kinda crazy when I think about it, but that is where my faith comes in. I knew I wanted to be a surrogate for 4 years before I acted on it. I knew the type of couple I wanted to carry for. I knew what my intentions and motivations were. I had the support of my husband and family the whole time. And, of course, I prayed about it. And now that I'm carrying their baby, I pray over him too. (I'll say "him" to simplify things) I pray that this child will have a wonderful, happy childhood and grow into a strong, responsible, successful adult. I pray for God's protection to be over him as he grows and develops, both before and after birth.  That even though there will be trials and difficulties in life, that he will be able to learn from these experiences and become a better person because of them. I pray these things over Sarah and Brian's child just as I do for my own children.

Ok, so I went off on a little tangent there, but a good one. Back to the weird people, I mean questions. ;)

"What if you don't want to give the baby up?" - Uuuummmm...it's not my baby to give up. And I really don't want to have my pants sued off.  And I really don't want another baby in my house because it would have to live in the garage. I already have 3 kids sharing one bedroom! No, really I do expect to have some sad feelings when I leave the hospital with empty arms, but when I think about the excitement that Sarah and Brian will be experiencing it makes it all worth it. And believe me, my arms won't be empty for long. My 3 monkeys at home will have them filled back up in no time. Wait, now that I think about it maybe I should see just how long I can extend my stay at the hotel...I mean hospital. ;) Kidding.

And finally, drum roll please.

"Was it planned?" - WHAT?!?!?! (This question wasn't actually posed to me, but to one of Sarah's family members.) I don't think I would've been able to respond.

I'm sure as the belly gets bigger and more people ask me about the baby, I'll get a few more good ones to share.